Start with WHY by Simon Sinek

Feel inspired and inspire others.

Why do you do what you do? What is your passion?

Do you wake up every morning inspired to go to work? Do you come home every day fulfilled by the work that you do?

If not, you are not alone.  

In 2006, Simon Sinek owned and operated his own marketing firm. Although his business was financially successful, he had lost his passion for what he was doing. He knew What he did and he knew How he did it different or better than others. However, he had no clarity as to Why he was doing it. With no purpose behind his work, he began to burnout and he became depressed.

The tips and advice he received from others, like, “Do what you love!” were not working. He became obsessed with finding the missing link - his Why. This is the driving inspiration that is there when everything is right and missing when at our worst.

Through personal reflection and sharing what was becoming clear with others, Simon found his Why – to inspire people to do the things that inspire them so that, together, we can change our world. He began to use his Why as a filter, choosing only to do things and get involved with projects that would bring his Why to life. His passion restored to levels he had never experienced before.

If you know your purpose, it makes you more qualified and more confident to choose the careers and find the companies that create environments in which you are more likely to be inspired and feel fulfilled. That is the goal. The best organizations foster trust and cooperation because their leaders build a circle of safety. This safe culture leads to stable, adaptive, confident teams, where everyone feels they belong.

Why is it that some leaders and organizations are able to inspire greater loyalty and engagement among their 

customers and employees alike? How are they are able to achieve and sustain inordinate amounts of success for years on end?

Whether they realize it or not, all great and inspiring leaders and organizations think, act and communicate in the same way... and it is the complete opposite from everyone else. 

Every single organization on the planet, even our own 

careers, function on three levels: 

1. What we do

2. How we do it, and 

3. Why we do it. 

When those three pieces are aligned, it gives us a filter through which to make decisions. It provides a foundation for innovation and for building trust. When all three pieces are in balance, others will say, with absolute clarity and certainty, “We know who you are,” “We know what you stand for.” This simple idea is The Golden Circle. It is a concept discovered by optimist and author Simon Sinek.

Every person on the planet knows What they do.
This is your job title, function or roles. For an organization, these are the products they sell or the services they offer.

Some people know How they do it.
These are the things you do that make you special or set you apart from your peers. Some organizations and individuals know How they do what they do. They may call it their “differentiating value proposition,” “proprietary process” or “unique selling proposition (USP).” The Hows are an organization’s or individual’s strengths, values or guiding principles. These are the things they feel set them apart from their competition; the things they think make them special or different from everyone else.

Very few people know WHY they do what they do.
The Why is not about making money - that’s a result. The Why is a purpose, cause or belief.
Your Why is the very reason you exist. Very few people and very few organizations can clearly articulate Why they do what they do. The Why provides a clear answer to the questions, “Why do you get out of bed every morning?” “Why does your organization exist?” and “Why should that matter to anyone else?”

Making money is NOT a Why. Revenues, profits, salaries and other monetary measurements are simply results of what we do.

The Why is about our contribution to impact and serve others. The Why inspires us.

People naturally communicate from the outside-in; they typically go from what is easiest to understand to what is hardest to understand and explain. They tell people What they do, tell them How they are different or better, and then they expect a behavior like a purchase, a vote or support.

Here is how most organizations market and communicate:

What: “Here is our law firm.”

How: “We have the industry’s most intelligent lawyers, who graduated from the world’s top schools. Have you seen our client list? Only from the Fortune 500! And, check out our offices – they are absolutely pristine.”

Behavior: “Come do business with our law firm!”

The problem is that What and How do not inspire action. Facts and figures make rational sense, but people do not make decisions purely based on facts and figures. Starting with What is what commodities do. Starting with Why is what leaders do.

Leaders inspire.

Leaders and organizations with the capacity to inspire all think, act and communicate from the inside-out. They start with their Why. When they communicate their purpose or cause first, they communicate in a way that drives decision-making and behavior.

It literally taps the part of the brain that influences behavior. 

Here’s an example with the same law firm, starting with their Why:

Why: “We believe in servicing the needs of others so that they can focus on the difference they need to make.”

How: “We do so by bringing on some of the most intelligent legal professionals who graduated from the world’s top schools. We work with top performing organizations, most of which are on the Fortune 500 list, so that we can help them make a larger difference in the world. And, we like to go above and beyond, so we have built pristine offices.”

What: “We are a world-class law firm. Come see for yourself.”

If the people at this firm actually believe in their Why and think, act and communicate starting with their Why, they will attract people who believe what they believe and who want to be a part of their cause.

None of this is opinion. It is all grounded in the tenets of biology.

A cross-section of the human brain shows that its layout perfectly correlates with the three major components of The Golden Circle. The outside of the brain is the Neocortex, which corresponds with the What level of The Golden Circle. The Neocortex is the newest brain or Homo Sapien brain. It is responsible for all rational and analytical thought and language. The middle two sections, the How and Why, of The Golden Circle make up the Limbic Brain. The Limbic Brain is responsible for all feelings, like trust and loyalty. It is also responsible for all human behavior and decision-making, yet it has no capacity for language. In other words, communicate from the outside-in and people can understand vast amounts of complicated information, like features, benefits, facts and figures. It simply does not drive human behavior.

Communicate from the inside-out and speak directly to the part of the brain that control emotions, behavior and decision-making. But, if asked the reason they choose one product or service over the other, the decision-maker often cites the features, benefits, facts or figures.
What’s the reasoning behind that?

The Neocortex, the thinking part of the brain, is always trying to understand and make sense of the world. This is the reason we think we are rational beings when we are really not. If we were, we would never buy a product or service simply because of how it makes us feel. We would never be loyal; we would always choose the best deal. We would never care about trust or relationships; we would only evaluate the numbers. We know that we don’t do that. We do choose one product, service or company over another because of the way it makes us feel.

The Limbic System controls our emotions, feelings and decision-making, but remember it has no capacity for language. We make decisions using our Limbic System and then rationalize that decision with the part of the brain that can communicate with words, the Neocortex.

There is a difference between repeat business and loyalty. Repeat business means that someone is willing to continue to do business with you. Perhaps because of your price, a feature or some sort of convenience. As soon as that convenience is no longer available, the customer complains or leaves to meet their needs elsewhere. Loyalty is quite different. Loyal consumers may choose to suffer some sort of inconvenience to continue doing business with you. They will pay more, travel further, proudly defend and champion your brand, even if your product or service is more expensive, further away or somehow less convenient. This is the reason we can say that people don’t buy What you do, they buy Why you do it and What you do simply serves as the tangible proof of what you believe.

For The Golden Circle to work properly, you must have:

1. Clarity of Why,

2. Discipline of How, and

3. Consistency of What.

No one section of The Golden Circle is more important than the other. The most important thing is a balance across all three.

WHY:

If you don’t know Why you do What you do, how can you expect anyone else to know? For others to know your Why, you must first have clarity of your own Why.

HOW:

The actions that you and your people take to bring your cause to life must be aligned with your values, guiding principles, strengths and beliefs.

WHAT:

And everything you say and everything you do must be consistent with what you believe. After all, we live in the tangible world. The only way people will know what you believe is if you say and do the things you actually believe.

The Golden Circle is not just a communication tool; it also provides some insight into how great organizations are structured. If we imagine The Golden Circle as a three-dimensional model, it’s a top down view of a cone.

The cone represents a company or an organization, an inherently organized system. At the top of the system, representing the Why, is a leader. She or he articulates the Why and points to a vision of a better future. The next level down, the How level, includes the people who are inspired by the leader’s cause. They give their blood, sweat and tears to build and bring the vision to life. The What, at the bottom of the cone, are the things the organization says and does that breathe life into the Why. They make it tangible. An organization communicates its Why through everything it says and does; the marketing, the products and services the company provides ... everything.

For a message to spread, it must be loud AND clear. Like a megaphone.

Loud is easy, just drive sales or buy marketing.

Clear is harder.

When an organization is clear about its purpose or its WHY, everyone, from employees to customers, can understand it. This clarity invites everyone who

interacts with the organization to become champions of the cause, should they choose. Ideally, this clarity starts at the top of the organization and moves through the company. It can inspire people to create products, services, solutions and marketing that brings the Why to life. When everything you say and do echoes what you believe, you end up with a message that’s loud AND clear.

The discovery of your why is not an academic exercise; it is something deeply personal. Your Why provides you with clarity, meaning and direction. It is a filter through which you can make decisions, every day, to bring your cause to life. A Why Statement is one sentence that captures your unique contribution and impact. The contribution is the real actionable part of your Why. The impact is the condition you wish to leave the people and world around you. Together, these two components provide fulfillment for you and those you serve.

When you find your cause or purpose, it will restore your passion to levels you’ve never experienced before, and as we do when we discover something beautiful, we share it with the people we love. It will change the course of your life, and it will change the course of your career where you will become completely devoted to spreading the idea of finding one’s passion or amplifying it if you already have it.

Having a job we love is a right not a privilege; it is not for the chosen few. ‘I love my job’ should be the standard, not the exception.

The best thing about discovering your purpose is that it is a biological constant: it has nothing to do with what we do. It is based on the biology of how we make decisions, what drives us and what motivates us, which means it doesn’t matter whether you are retired or whether you are a student. It doesn’t matter what industry you’re in. it will help you understand what makes you tick, what drives you and what inspires you. This will give you something to grasp on to and find inspiration and fulfillment in everything you do, hopefully for the rest of your life.

All you need to do is have the will and the desire to want to understand what drives and inspires you.

Imagine a world where nearly everyone feels safe and valued at work, and returns home at the end of each day fulfilled - feeling as though they are contributing toward something greater than themselves. The Golden Circle can help bring us closer to this brighter world.

A movement only exists when people are inspired to move, to do something, to take up the cause as their own. On behalf of Simon Sinek and our team at Start With Why, I am progressing the movement to inspire and live in service to others.

The ideas The Golden Circle illustrates are certainly not new. Simon did not invent purpose. What he has been able to do is capture this idea, that has been around for millennia, in a way that is simple, easy to understand and actionable. It is my hope that people use and share these ideas with others so that, together, we can change our world.

Inspire on!

Got Love?

Valentine’s!

I saw a card that said, ‘Love is friendship set on fire,’ and I can’t agree if that’s a good thing or bad thing. Who decides what love is?

You tell yourself that it doesn’t exist anymore, that people don’t know how to love anymore, that everyone is more interested in hooking up than getting to know you and that you are destined to be alone. 

            I want to know what love is is more than just one of the 80s greatest songs. Love is more foreign now than the band Foreigner had imagined it to be. This valentine, I will be dancing on my own in this frustrating new romantic landscape, singing Here I go Again.

   
You give up on love by expecting it to be handed to you and expecting it to be easy and expecting it to be pain-free.        

Blame the much-documented rise of the “hookup culture” among young people, characterized by spontaneous, commitment-free (and often, alcohol-fueled) romantic flings. Many students today have never been on a traditional date. The word ‘date’ should almost be stricken from the dictionary. Dating culture has evolved to a cycle of text messages, each one requiring the code-breaking skills of a cold war spy to interpret.

The new date is ‘hanging out.’ It’s one step below a date, and one step above a high-five. Dinner at a romantic new bistro? Forget it. Women in their 20s these days are lucky to get a last-minute text to tag along. With or without you.

Ah, romance in the digital age!

            Raised in the age of so-called “hookup culture,” millennials — who are reaching an age where they are starting to think about settling down — are subverting the rules of courtship.

There’s nothing quite like a new generation setting out to breed. 

Do millennials give love a bad name?

            Stereotypical hookup culture creates a problem that normalizes the behavior of a few and marginalizes the behavior of everyone else who differs. Girls just wanna have fun? This assumption, though, makes those who act differently feel like they do not belong. It pushes them to the social fringe. This is true even though, as a study reported, those who don’t hookup are more numerous than those who do. Only 20% of students hookup, but the behavior is assumed to be the norm.

            Whatever happened to chivalry? Does it only exist in 80's movies? 'Just once I want my life to be like an 80's movie, preferably one with a really awesome musical number for no apparent reason. But no, no, John Hughes did not direct my life.' There is this theory that chivalry has been distorted, and some would even say it is inexistent or “dead.” Most women immediately think that it is the men that have gone wrong and trashed the immaculate virtue of chivalry.

            The problem is that young men and women today don’t even know how to get out of hookup culture, and that leaves a generation unhappy, sexually unfulfilled, and confused about intimacy. In interviews with students, many graduating seniors did not know the first thing about the basic mechanics of a traditional date. They’re wondering, ‘If you like someone, how would you walk up to them? What would you say? What words would you use?’ 

            Never has talking become easier since the rise of the digital age. On one hand, connection feels much easier. But on another hand, we disconnect on another level.

Is connecting still the same, or is it evolving?

            Decades ago, people were limited in their means of signaling attraction. Their methods might have included passing notes or openly flirting. But today, through the digital world, one can signal attraction by either liking or commenting on their crush’s statuses. Technological advancements have not only changed boundaries, but social interaction as we know it. Although these changes have also brought about new norms and unspoken rules, they cannot be used to build sturdy or genuine connections concerning love.

You give up on love the day you stop listening to your heart and who it beats for. 

            Time after time, genuine connections come from more than just words and pictures on a computer screen. They come from shared moments of laughter, sorrow, enjoyment and even pain, but most importantly these interactions must be personal. If two people are able to successfully connect on a personal level, digital advancements can certainly help sustain the bond.

This valentine, take a walk on the wild side and give yourself the love you seek and the universe will send you people who match it. Don't give up on love.

Don’t stop believing.